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| How to get a girl with which you love |
When you love a girl, sometimes it is best just to tell her, even if you are not sure if the feeling is mutual.its best if you do and not hold back for too long or she just might start thinking differently about your feelings toward her.
Steps
- Know that even if she doesn't love you, it is a relief to get this off your chest.
- Don't make a big production of it. Just give it to her straight. Acting like
- Don't be a prick/a drama king/queen could make her reject you. Don't get angry with her if she says no.
- Remember, loving someone is not something people plan or do on purpose. Strong feelings like love arise from emotional stimulation, not choice.
- Go easy on her, since telling her that you love her might be a bit overwhelming for her, and she may need a minute or two to think about it.
- Wait for the right moment. Don't tell her you love her when either one of you is amongst friends. Wait until you are alone. But when you are, don't wait to tell her.
- Respect her reaction. If she doesn't love you back, your life isn't over; it may hurt, but that's how she feels.
- Make sure that you are sure you are ready for the emotional roller coaster of love. There are highs and there are lows; if you are just thinking of saying it to get laid, DON'T. If you really love someone, you will respect them, care for them, and be there for the good and the bad. Are you ready for that?
- "I love you" is a statement, not a question. Don't expect an answer, because it doesn't
Tips
- Look nice and be sure to shower. This might just give that extra bit that was needed.
- Be confident! Look her in the eye, stand tall, and smile. Most importantly, speak without hesitation, particularly if you act shy on a normal basis. You must demonstrate that you believe the words coming out of your mouth and can back them up with the strength of your devotion.
- Don't tell everybody you know you love her before you tell her. It is not a good thing if she finds out on her own.
- Love can be a tricky thing. She might change her mind after she gave you an answer. Don't stalk her to see if she has changed her mind yet.
- If you have been her friend for a long time and now you want to be more, then she probably does not see you in that light. In this case, you must "change yourself" in the sense that you have to portray yourself as someone she can love and be attracted to, instead of just someone who enjoys spending time with. This change needs to be something positive for yourself and illustrate your good qualities. For example, start going to the gym: you get in shape, and suddenly, she starts seeing that well-toned man of her dreams with that personality she has loved all along.
- Make sure you have an answer prepared for any possible reaction.
- If she rejects you, ask if she wants to be/stay friends; letting her know you care about her might help change her mind eventually.
- Consider not saying anything at all. No one likes needy people. If she loves you and tells you so, you're all set. If she doesn't, either she's not ready to tell you anyways, or she just doesn't feel that way about you.
- Be yourself. If she rejects you, don't get angry.
Warnings
- No means no. If she turns you down, remember that there are other people out there.
- She might say that she loves you back; be prepared for that. If she does, its most likely not okay to say every single feeling you have for her right away, express it over time and she will most likely realize how important you are to her If she is a friend, do not let that rejection change your friendship with her. Telling her that you love her should be to gain the closer relationship you want with her, not to weaken the one you already had.
